Importance of Orgasm for Women
Everyday we talk about how people can and should make love, but there are virtually no
rules for good sex. It isn’t compulsory to have an orgasm. As long as a woman is left feeling satisfied, neither she nor her partner should feel that they have in any way failed because she hasn’t had an orgasm.
Sex is for your pleasure, not to pass some test. Many women, however, while they enjoy intercourse with their partner, never or rarely reach orgasm, and are left feeling dissatisfied as a result.
Women’s problems over orgasm vary. Some women have never experienced an orgasm at all. This is often because they were brought up to think of sex as something not quite nice.
Parents worried about daughters getting pregnant may keep impressing on them that they mustn’t get carried away. It is small wonder that, when they have a partner, they can’t suddenly undo all those lessons to their sub-conscious.
Before a woman who has never experienced an orgasm can help her partner to help her to climax, she has to learn for herself what pleases her.
Sex is a positive pleasure, and there is nothing wrong with enjoying it, even when you are alone.
Having given yourself permission to enjoy your sexuality, you have to find out what turns you on, explore the effect of different caresses of the genital area.
When you have an orgasm it feels like an internal throbbing. The intensity varies widely. It can be fierce and wild, it may be quiet and sensuous. The common denominator is it certainly should feel pleasurable.
Some women learn how to masturbate, perhaps as teenagers, but find they are unable to reach a climax with their partner, even if he stimulates them in a similar way.
The most likely cause of this is a variation on the inhibited feelings mentioned before. Their sub-conscious will not let them admit to anyone else that they are enjoying sex.
Sharing regular sessions of all-over massage can help a couple start communicating physically and sexually. Use a little cream or oil, massage and stroke one another all over.
Say what feels good and what not-so-good. When the time feels right, you can begin showing one another how to give the most pleasure by stroking and massaging the sexual areas, too. The only rule is that you should both enjoy
it.
In fact, this is normal, as only a minority of women do climax during intercourse. Most reach orgasm through other stimulation. Of course, it is important for the man to be sure that the woman is really aroused before he
attempts intercourse, so they must share lots of loving foreplay first.
Assuming a couple feel free to experiment with what feels good to them, then they have a good chance of discovering what will lead to the woman achieving full sexual satisfaction pretty frequently, if not every time.
Source : Thesun
